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Obituary: Adeline (Addy) F. Reeves Jan. 20, 1927 – Sept. 7, 2019

on September 11, 2019 - 7:55am

ADELINE (ADDY) F. REEVES Jan. 20, 1927 – Sept. 7, 2019

Adeline (Addy) F. Reeves passed away on September 7th in her home with family around her.

Addy was born in Oakdale, NE, on January 20th, 1927 to Herman and Lena Walters and was raised on their family farm with her four siblings. 

She graduated from Oakdale High School, hopped the train to Omaha with her older sister, Millie, got a room at a boarding house, and landed a job as a secretary. She soon met Frank, her husband of 62 years, who was a recent enlistee in the U.S. Navy. During their courtship Frank said, “for 2 cents I would marry you” and Mom pulled out 2 cents – and that was that! They were married on January 13, 1947 in Manhattan, Kansas.

Frank’s 20+ years in the Navy took them from coast to coast. They had eight children along the way: Robert Reeves (Nancy), both deceased, from California, Patricia Day (John) from South Carolina, Frank Reeves, Jr (Margaret) from New Mexico, Teresa Reeves-Long (Kevin) from Missouri, Rick Reeves (Jill) from Georgia, Jeff Reeves from Missouri, JoAnn Abbott (Matt) from Virginia, and Kristi Reeves (Rudd) from Colorado. Besides her children she is also survived by sixteen grandchildren; Jennifer, Christopher, Heather, Genna, Kate, Mary, Jessica, Lindsie, Matt Jr, Gretchen, Samantha, Melia, Grace, Kenya, Thorin, and Mollie); and six great-grandchildren; Evan, Alisa, Desmond, Riley, Opal and John.

Frank retired from the Navy in 1965, and they moved to Los Alamos, NM for his second career with the Los Alamos National Laboratory. Summers and family vacations were spent traveling in a succession of tents, trailers and motor homes until Frank’s illness in 2007. The many family camping trips in New Mexico and throughout the western US, Canada, and Mexico instilled in her family a love of the outdoors, a can-do attitude, independence, and a resilience that continues to guide all of their children.

After retiring from LANL in 1981, Addy and Frank began their next big adventure; purchasing 43 acres near Ava, Missouri, building a home, growing lots of vegetables, and continuing to travel with many newfound friends in the RV clubs to which they belonged. 

She tolerated all of the critters we brought, bought and rescued; most of the time taking care of them long after we lost interest. She was a crafter extraordinaire. Over the years she baked and decorated elaborate birthday and graduation cakes, created beautiful quilts, crocheted complex tablecloths, wove beautiful Ojo de Dios, sewed clothes for all of her children and their dolls. 

She was always ready for a game of badminton, horseshoes, softball, and pinochle – or a rousing game of poker (which she usually won). She was an amazing cook – creating recipes to feed a family of ten on a shoestring budget. Mom loved music and dancing of all sorts, from polka to waltzing to square dancing. She encouraged (and suffered through) various clarinet, flute, trumpet, guitar, and piano lessons, and greatly enjoyed her kids, grandkids and great grandkids singing and playing musical instruments to her, but frequently lamented that she couldn’t carry a tune herself. We will miss her brilliant smile, her sometimes surprising sense of humor, and her indomitable spirit.

Frank founded the LST49 Club in 1982, bringing together a group of sailors who served together during World War II aboard the Naval ship of that name, and Addy continued to attend their annual reunions and served as secretary until 2016, when most of the guys had either passed away, or could no longer attend. Frank and Addy were both very active members of St. Leo’s Catholic Church in Ava. She continued to volunteer at the church and at the Heart of the Hills Thrift Store into her 90s. 

She leaves behind a legacy of love and service to both organizations an indelible legacy in her kids. Our mom was deeply admired and truly loved by so many in her many and varied circles.  Most people are lucky to have moments of true grace in their lives ... our mom provided a lifetime of grace.

After Frank died in 2008, Mom continued to live on their farm; gardening, crafting, and enjoying her little rural piece of heaven until the end; thanks entirely to the physical assistance and compassionate care of our brother, Jeff, to whom we are all incredibly grateful. Dad was the sailor in the family, but Mom has always been our anchor. She lived a long and happy life.

In lieu of flowers, a donation to the Audubon Society of Missouri, St. Leo's Catholic Church, or the Heart of the Hills Thrift Store, Ava, Missouri may be made in Mom's name.

A memorial service is planned for October 12th at St Leo’s Catholic Church in Ava, Missouri.